Well a couple of weeks ago the hubby and I made the decision that I would go to nights and keep the baby home with me during the day to save on daycare costs.  It saves us roughly $400 a month.  I think with the economy the way it is we are not the only ones making this change. 

So far so good.  We have a pretty good little boy that is on a schedule so he allows for nap times and things like that and does not cause too much ruckus during the day. 

Im lucky that I have a job that allows a flexible schedule.  Right now Im loving working at night.  I do not have to deal with the daily drama and BS that comes with working in an office full of women.  That sounds horrible but its true.  While I cant say that I never participated in it, its easier to keep your nose clean if you are not even there to be involved in the first place!  The night shift is not only a relaxing invironment but its made me come to realize how lucky I am to have the job that I have.  Before switching I was thinking daily I was just going to walk out!

I hated to have to take the little one out of daycare but you gotta do what you gotta do and once its time for pre-school he’ll go back.  I did not get the standard 6wks with him due to having to return to work early and hubby was home with him for the first 3mo so I feel like I missed a lot.  Now its time for me to catch up!

So moral of the story is if you have a job that allows you to work nights take the opportunity!  You might find that you love it and it will enable you to be a better wife and mother in the process!!!

OK something I am struggling with right now is whether or not to consider having another baby or getting my tubes tied. Originally I was not going to have any…then we decided on the one, and now I want to get my tubes tied. While my husband says he’s ok with it he also cannot guarantee me that in 5 years he will not feel regret about the decision.

So how do you know when enough is enough? With the economy the way it is right now how can people afford it? Being the mother to one of my own and two step children I really think that 3 is more than enough, especially when you have one in diapers and two about to be teenagers.

This is a life changing decision. You can’t make that decision on your own and for some reason I feel as though Im being expected to. So I guess all I can do is put the question to you, how do you know when you’re done? How do you know once you make this decision you will not look back and regret later down the road? While you may not want any more kids now can you say that you wont next year at this time? Or even two years from now?

Something to ponder!

OK so we all have them.  Friends that when you tell that your baby did something that you are really excited about that turn around and say well my baby has been doing that FOREVER and yours is behind.  WHAT? 

Are these women serious?  What is the big deal?  Every child develops at a different rate.  Just because Suzy Jo is rolling over doesnt mean that Billy Bob should be doing it too. 

I had an acquantance that even her child getting teeth was a big competition.  She would text everyone and email everyone in her address books and brag about this several times a month.  WHO CARES?  I mean great for you!  Great for your baby!  But is it really something that you have to try to piss people off with?  Is it really that big of a deal that your child has hair over their ears now and Jane down the road doesnt?

So moms…next time your baby does something exciting relish in it.  Do not let someone that is mean spirited bring you down.  Always remember their life has to be pretty pittiful to be trying to bring someone else down by something as childish as pitting your children against each other on who’s doing what first. 

From the minute you get pregnant all you hear from other mothers is this is better or that is better or dont do this and do this. Do they really know best?

Sure you seek out your friends that already have kids for advise, however you also dont need them to make you feel inferior. And one thing I have learned being a mother is every kid is different. What may work for one might not work for another. There is no set time limit for eating solid foods, using a binky, crawling, getting teeth or anything else. Every baby is different and do things in their own time when they are ready. It is also customary that baby boys develop a little bit slower so don’t worry if your boy is not doing the things that your girl did at that time in their development.

There are so many brands of diapers, binkies, wipes, bottles, formula and generally just every other baby product on the market its only natural that everyone is going to have a favorite. But you have to use what is best for you. Again what may have worked for someone might break out your baby.

Parenthood is an adventure. And while you might want to get others opinions and advice and thats a good thing try out things for yourself. See what works for you and your baby!

Well most households these days are two income. If you are a SAHM consider yourself one of the lucky and the few. With the rising costs of fuel, and everyday means to get by its very hard in this day and age to have one parent that stays home.

I have a friend going thru the dilema of wanting to stay home but not wanting to have to struggle to make ends meet as many one working parent homes do. Yes it is better for your kids if you are the one that is taking care of them all day. That goes without saying. No one is going to take care of your babies the way that you do. But you also want to have the means to provide for them and not be living off of state assistance or be struggling in any way.

Is there really an answer to this problem? The horror stories you hear about daycares only makes this more of an upfront problem. Just in the past two weeks two private home daycares have been shut down due to neglegance. You hear these stories and you ask yourself is my baby really safe? Makes you want to send one of them little nanny cams with him/her everyday.

I for one am a working mother. While sometimes I think it might be nice to stay at home, other times I really think I’d go insane. I LOVE MY BABY. That goes without saying. I love him to pieces but I also enjoy my time away from him. I like going to work and having that adult interaction. Does that make me a bad mother? Is it wrong that I like going to work? The sad thing is you consider work your “me” time. When really its just another headache that you have to deal with throughout the day and just someone else demanding all of your time and attention.

For those of you out there that are SAHM I do envy you. I envy you for being able to do it. I know I couldn’t. I dont know how my mom did it. I know she worked for a lot of years but when I was growing up she ran a licensed daycare out of our home and was always there to take care of me too. Looking back she seems like SUPERMOM! I’ve always said if I am half the mother my mom was then I am doing a good job. Sometimes it feels like I’m never going to get there!

So I guess the question is…What is right? I don’t think anyone can really give that answer. The experts will tell you if you can stay at home for your kids that is what is best for them and SAHM’s will argue that its the only way to do things; whereas working mothers will tell you their way is right. Its one of those grey areas that I think whatever works best for you and your family is what is right in that instance!

Today is Memorial Day. It is a day to not only honor those that have passed but also reflect on your time that you had with them.

As I sit here I’m reminded of all the times I shared with my mom and I know that she is in a better place now. The selfish side of me wishes she were still here in body but I know that she is here in spirit and she never leaves my side.

My best friend received a phone call this morning that her step father had passed away. My heart is breaking for her and I wish there was something I could say or do…but I know from experience that no words can console your heart when someone close to you passes. Hopefully her just knowing that I’m here for her eases her pain in some way.

Please take today to honor those that have passed and honor those close to you that are still around. Never take one single moment with your loved ones for granted because you never know when that might be your last with them. Life is too short.

Well they did it! Ashlee Simpson and Pete Wentz were married this past Saturday in an intimate ceremony at her parents home. They were married in an evening ceremony among family and close friends. Simpson wore an ivory lace wedding gown as she and Wentz exchanged vows in front of 150 guests. The brides father, Joe Simpson, performed the ceremony. Jessica brought boyfriend Tony Romo to the wedding despite recent break up rumors. This is the first marriage for both and pregnancy rumors are still circulating.
–Ok. Lets see how long it lasts. I hope for their sake its forever. Too many hollywood marriages end in divorce these days. And she’s awfully young to be getting married!

Jessica Alba and Cash Warren have gotten married! The parents to be exchanged vows at the Beverly Hills courthouse on Monday in casual clothing. They are expecting their first child, a girl, this summer. Sources say that Alba looked happy but nervous during the ceremony that had no other guests in attendance.
–Ok i would be nervous too if i were having a shotgun wedding. I hate it that she didnt get to have a real wedding!!! Maybe someday after the baby is born she will!

Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie, who are expecting twins in August, were spotted baby shopping in Cannes. They bought only white for their new additions. An employee at the store did ask the expectant mom what she was having and she replied that they didnt know nor did they want to.
–Give it up already!!! Just tell us what you’re having!

Kristi Yamaguchi and dance partner Mark Ballas were crowned the Dancing with the Stars Champions last night. Yamaguchi is the first woman to win in 5 seasons of the show.
–Congrats to Kristi…however with her figure skating background I do believe that she had a bit of an unfair advantage on the other contestants!

Heidi Montag and boyfriend Spencer Pratt, both of The Hills, were spotted in color-coordinating baseball outfits at a Los Angeles Dodgers game. Neither seemed to invested in the game, rather in having their pictures taken. During the 7th inning both stood up to pose for pictures.
–OMG, get over yourselves!!! First off Heidi is a retard. She gave up a great job for her loser boyfriend who’s just that…A LOSER.

Check back for more celebrity news and gossip later in the week!