Well a couple of weeks ago the hubby and I made the decision that I would go to nights and keep the baby home with me during the day to save on daycare costs.  It saves us roughly $400 a month.  I think with the economy the way it is we are not the only ones making this change. 

So far so good.  We have a pretty good little boy that is on a schedule so he allows for nap times and things like that and does not cause too much ruckus during the day. 

Im lucky that I have a job that allows a flexible schedule.  Right now Im loving working at night.  I do not have to deal with the daily drama and BS that comes with working in an office full of women.  That sounds horrible but its true.  While I cant say that I never participated in it, its easier to keep your nose clean if you are not even there to be involved in the first place!  The night shift is not only a relaxing invironment but its made me come to realize how lucky I am to have the job that I have.  Before switching I was thinking daily I was just going to walk out!

I hated to have to take the little one out of daycare but you gotta do what you gotta do and once its time for pre-school he’ll go back.  I did not get the standard 6wks with him due to having to return to work early and hubby was home with him for the first 3mo so I feel like I missed a lot.  Now its time for me to catch up!

So moral of the story is if you have a job that allows you to work nights take the opportunity!  You might find that you love it and it will enable you to be a better wife and mother in the process!!!

OK something I am struggling with right now is whether or not to consider having another baby or getting my tubes tied. Originally I was not going to have any…then we decided on the one, and now I want to get my tubes tied. While my husband says he’s ok with it he also cannot guarantee me that in 5 years he will not feel regret about the decision.

So how do you know when enough is enough? With the economy the way it is right now how can people afford it? Being the mother to one of my own and two step children I really think that 3 is more than enough, especially when you have one in diapers and two about to be teenagers.

This is a life changing decision. You can’t make that decision on your own and for some reason I feel as though Im being expected to. So I guess all I can do is put the question to you, how do you know when you’re done? How do you know once you make this decision you will not look back and regret later down the road? While you may not want any more kids now can you say that you wont next year at this time? Or even two years from now?

Something to ponder!

OK so we all have them.  Friends that when you tell that your baby did something that you are really excited about that turn around and say well my baby has been doing that FOREVER and yours is behind.  WHAT? 

Are these women serious?  What is the big deal?  Every child develops at a different rate.  Just because Suzy Jo is rolling over doesnt mean that Billy Bob should be doing it too. 

I had an acquantance that even her child getting teeth was a big competition.  She would text everyone and email everyone in her address books and brag about this several times a month.  WHO CARES?  I mean great for you!  Great for your baby!  But is it really something that you have to try to piss people off with?  Is it really that big of a deal that your child has hair over their ears now and Jane down the road doesnt?

So moms…next time your baby does something exciting relish in it.  Do not let someone that is mean spirited bring you down.  Always remember their life has to be pretty pittiful to be trying to bring someone else down by something as childish as pitting your children against each other on who’s doing what first. 

Ok I will admit, I bawled like a big ole baby during One Tree Hill tonight.  Anyone who doesn’t find death sad, whether it be a fictional character or not, has some issues and needs to get therapy!  LOL.  JK. 

Anyways, one of the characters who was really working on turning his life around was shot just b/c he was in the wrong place at the wrong time.  It makes you realize that life is way too short and things can change in an instance!

Of course I cry whenever something like that happens.  I am extremely saddend by death…more so since I lost my mom in 2005.  Before that sure it was sad, but since then everytime I even think of death I cant help but remember how I felt on that day.  No matter who surrounds you during that time you feel completely alone.  Nothing anyone says helps or makes you feel any better about the situation. 

Tonights One Tree Hill reminded me that death is a part of life.  No matter how much you dont want to think about it.  You’re loved ones are going to leave your life.  Maybe not always thru death but one way or another you may loose friends, family members, or just random aquaintances. 

We spend so much time getting caught up in the day to day that we really dont stop to think that we may not have a tomorrow.  Too many times we take for granted that we’re going to wake up the next day and things are just going to be just as we were when we went to sleep the night before.  Be thankful for the things you have in life.  Life each moment to the fullest.  Do not take those for granted that mean the most to you.  Do not put yourself in situations that you will regret later. 

If you are reading this remember you’re life can change in an instant.  What may be today may not be tomorrow.  Love until your heart feels as it may burst and laugh until you pee your pants!!!

Well most households these days are two income. If you are a SAHM consider yourself one of the lucky and the few. With the rising costs of fuel, and everyday means to get by its very hard in this day and age to have one parent that stays home.

I have a friend going thru the dilema of wanting to stay home but not wanting to have to struggle to make ends meet as many one working parent homes do. Yes it is better for your kids if you are the one that is taking care of them all day. That goes without saying. No one is going to take care of your babies the way that you do. But you also want to have the means to provide for them and not be living off of state assistance or be struggling in any way.

Is there really an answer to this problem? The horror stories you hear about daycares only makes this more of an upfront problem. Just in the past two weeks two private home daycares have been shut down due to neglegance. You hear these stories and you ask yourself is my baby really safe? Makes you want to send one of them little nanny cams with him/her everyday.

I for one am a working mother. While sometimes I think it might be nice to stay at home, other times I really think I’d go insane. I LOVE MY BABY. That goes without saying. I love him to pieces but I also enjoy my time away from him. I like going to work and having that adult interaction. Does that make me a bad mother? Is it wrong that I like going to work? The sad thing is you consider work your “me” time. When really its just another headache that you have to deal with throughout the day and just someone else demanding all of your time and attention.

For those of you out there that are SAHM I do envy you. I envy you for being able to do it. I know I couldn’t. I dont know how my mom did it. I know she worked for a lot of years but when I was growing up she ran a licensed daycare out of our home and was always there to take care of me too. Looking back she seems like SUPERMOM! I’ve always said if I am half the mother my mom was then I am doing a good job. Sometimes it feels like I’m never going to get there!

So I guess the question is…What is right? I don’t think anyone can really give that answer. The experts will tell you if you can stay at home for your kids that is what is best for them and SAHM’s will argue that its the only way to do things; whereas working mothers will tell you their way is right. Its one of those grey areas that I think whatever works best for you and your family is what is right in that instance!